Week 1: stop the bleeding

Continue: next week of the path

If the pain is unbearable — first complete the additional session “How to Get Rid of Emotional Pain”, then start the steps.

The first non-obvious step — take away her option and right to choose to come back to you: the decision must be yours, not hers.

Get out of the “backup man” position: right now she has freedom, admirers and your care — she has no reason to return.

Unavailability attracts: like a cat with a ball — the harder it is to get, the more interesting it is. You need to become a little unavailable.

Pleading “come back” is a tug-of-war: the harder you insist, the harder she refuses. The struggle must be stopped.

Full ignore for a month is bad advice: disappear briefly (no more than a week) and send a special letter beforehand (given closer to the end of the week).

Show strength of character, not weakness: a signal of masculine strength triggers her instinct of attraction, while “I can't cope without you” repels her.

You cannot bring her back with pleas and emotions — you cannot “beg” her back; other methods are needed.

Diagram: who does what — текстовая версия

1. D → M: Greeting and support
2. D → M: If the pain is unbearable — first complete the additional session
3. D → M: Get rid of the pain of loss and feel balanced
4. D → M: First step — take away her option to come back
5. D → M: Get out of the backup man position
6. M → Zh: Showers her with flowers and begs her to return
7. Zh → M: No, I won't come back to you
8. M → Zh: Insists, tug-of-war
9. Zh → M: Refuses ever more strongly
10. D → M: Stop pleading — it's a struggle
11. D → M: Let go of the rope, cause her confusion
12. D → M: Disappear briefly, no more than a week
13. D → M: Write a special letter before that
14. D → M: Show strength of character, not weakness
15. Zh → M: Confusion: what's next
16. Zh → M: Interest in the unavailable man

Diagram: order of steps — текстовая версия

1. Assess your state → Is the pain unbearable?
2. Is the pain unbearable? → (Yes) Complete the additional session
3. Complete the additional session → Remove the pain of loss
4. Is the pain unbearable? → (No) Stop pleading and gifts
5. Remove the pain of loss → Stop pleading and gifts
6. Stop pleading and gifts → Get out of the backup man position
7. Get out of the backup man position → Let go of the rope and end the struggle
8. Let go of the rope and end the struggle → Cause her confusion and disorientation
9. Cause her confusion and disorientation → Become a little unavailable
10. Become a little unavailable → Full ignore for a month?
11. Full ignore for a month? → (Bad advice) No — disappear for no more than a week
12. No — disappear for no more than a week → Write a special letter
13. Write a special letter → Show strength of character and spirit
14. Show strength of character and spirit → She starts chasing you